After 18 years of waiting for the universe to assist me with meeting men to date organically, I recently decided to be more proactive with entering the dating world. It didn’t take long to start seeing that there is something very wrong with modern dating. Much of the feedback I was hearing from clients about […]
“The only way out is through.” Therapists frequently use this sentiment with clients. When I am the client with my own therapist, when I hear this, my logical brain knows she is right. My emotional brain wants to throw the box of tissues at her. (Fortunately, we meet via telehealth so there is no risk […]
This is written from the perspective of those who want authentic love and have tried tirelessly to obtain it. For people who have been the recipient of genuine love – from a parent, a friend, a partner – they might find it hard to relate to this writing. If you have felt loved by another, […]
As a couples therapist, I spend much of my mental energy thinking about what makes some relationships last while others dissolve. If I consider the various situations presented by my clients, my ongoing research on the topic, and even my own marriage that didn’t last, I think I have come up with a fairly reliable […]
In 2024, I had the privilege of seeing Taylor Swift in concert twice. Neither were planned far in advance; the opportunities fell in my lap (extreme gratitude to my daughter and one of my dearest friends for making this happen). So, I figured going was meant to be. It was quite a different experience from […]
Each year, during the week of Thanksgiving, I start asking myself this question. Before you read any further – spoiler alert. The first part of this blog will focus on the downside of the holiday season, which I have defined as starting the weekend before Thanksgiving and ending on New Year’s Day. For many people […]
How do you keep hanging on when you no longer know how? You’re exhausted – not just physically but emotionally, mentally, down to your core. When you were younger you could never imagine you could be this tired. You are sleeping as much as you can, consuming caffeine, doing “self-care” (a phrase you are so […]
Having a strong personal relationship with hope is a critical piece of personal wellbeing and happiness. Hope helps us look forward to the future. It plays an important part in setting goals and being able to envision them. Hope can help us push through adversity. Sometimes, when things are really, really bad, hope is all […]
Most people know someone who has experienced trauma or profound grief and loss. Trauma is much more common than people think. Although trauma is traditionally associated with military personnel, trauma incidents can occur throughout everyday life. 70% of U.S. adults have experienced at least one traumatic event with at least 20% of these adults with […]
Wouldn’t it be nice if solving personal challenges and issues were as simple as just deciding to do so? That simply making a change in ourselves because someone told us we should? That a positive affirmation written on a post-it note attached to a bathroom mirror was all we needed to create permanent change? If […]